Hey everyone! We’d like to introduce you to Nick Elston, a Keynote, Conference & Event Speaker, Transformational Speaking Coach,ย Lecturer on the Lived Experience of Mental Health and Founder of Forging People, and these are just some of his achievements. As we head toward a new year Nick will talk about a topic thatโs close to his heartโand, letโs be honest, probably on your minds too: Finding your voice and why confidence and self-esteem start with speaking up…
“Now, before you roll your eyes thinking, โNick, public speaking isnโt my thing,โ hear me out. I promise, this isnโt about turning you all into keynote speakers (unless thatโs your dreamโthen Iโm here for it!). Instead, this is about helping you see the power of owning your voice, embracing confidence, and leaving imposter syndrome in 2024 where it belongs.
Letโs kick this off with a startling fact: according to Harvard, public speaking is one of the biggest fears out there, ranking higher than even the fear of death. Yep, more people would rather face their own mortality than speak up in a room full of people!
Nick Elston
Confidence and self-esteem start with finding your voice
But hereโs the thingโpublic speaking isnโt just about presenting on stage. Itโs about any moment where we put our ideas, thoughts, and yes, our voice, out there for others to hear. Whether it’s a team meeting, a client call, or giving feedback to a manager, finding your voice is key to feeling confident and valued.
So, what does it take to actually find your voice and use it confidently in 2025? Letโs get into it.
Realise that confidence is built, not born
First off, letโs bust a myth: confidence isnโt something youโre either born with or not. Itโs something you build, little by little. Often, we look at people who seem effortlessly confident and think theyโve got something we donโt. But the truth is, confidence grows with practice. Each time you put yourself out there, youโre adding a brick to your confidence wall. So, in 2025, give yourself permission to start smallโspeak up in a meeting, share an idea, or volunteer for a project. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Tackle imposter syndrome head-on
Ah, imposter syndrome, that unwelcome guest who loves to whisper, โYouโre not good enoughโ just when youโre about to step up. Hereโs a radical thought for the new year: instead of fighting those feelings, acknowledge them. We all experience imposter syndrome at some pointโitโs a sign that youโre pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. But remember, the only difference between you and the people who seem like theyโve ‘made it’ is that they didnโt let self-doubt hold them back. In 2025, letโs focus on recognising those self-doubts, acknowledging them, and then moving forward anyway.
Build your confidence and self-esteem with speaking up
Hereโs a secret Iโve learned through my work: self-esteem doesnโt just come from thinking positively about yourself; it comes from action. Each time you put yourself out there, youโre proving to yourself that youโre capable and resilient. And guess what? That boosts your self-esteem in a way that no pep talk ever could. Start with small stepsโmaybe contribute more in meetings, or try voicing your opinion in a team discussion. In the words of my good friend (me): self-esteem is the muscle you build every time you use your voice.
Public Speaking isnโt just for public speakers
Now, I know what some of you are thinking: โNick, I donโt want to be a public speaker.โ And thatโs okay! But hereโs the thingโspeaking up doesnโt mean you have to be on a stage. Itโs about having the confidence to present yourself and your ideas, whether thatโs in a one-on-one conversation, a Zoom call, or a packed conference room. And guess what? Those moments of speaking up, no matter how small, are what make you stand out. So, donโt be afraid to find those opportunities to speak your mind.
Remember, itโs not about perfection
Perfectionism can be the ultimate silencer. How many times have you held back on sharing an idea because it didnโt feel perfect? Hereโs the truth: no one is looking for perfection. People connect with authenticity, not flawless delivery. So, in 2025, letโs aim to be real, not perfect. Be okay with the occasional โumโ or stumbleโit’s what makes you human and relatable. And trust me, thatโs far more engaging than any perfectly rehearsed script.ย
Wrapping it up
So, hereโs the challenge for 2025: letโs make it the year we find our voices. Whether that means speaking up more in team meetings, presenting your ideas with confidence, or simply feeling more comfortable owning your space, letโs commit to building confidence, kicking imposter syndrome to the curb, and leaving perfectionism in the dust.
Because hereโs the thingโfinding your voice isnโt just about communication; itโs about empowering yourself and letting the world know who you are and what you stand for. And if thatโs not worth striving for, then what is?
Hereโs to a bold, confident, voice-filled 2025.
